I started working full-time about 5 months ago after being a Stay-at-Home-Mom (SAHM) for almost 16 years. And when I say full-time, I mean full-time, like Monday-Friday from 830-530. Although I had done tons of freelance work before from home, I jumped into this job head first. -And there is a distinct difference between who I am now, as opposed to who I was before.
Truth be told, I like ME so much better now that I am working! The fulfillment I get from having a purpose outside of my family life empowers me and makes me happier!
Don’t get me wrong, I’m one hell of a Mom! Like the absolutely best, beyond compare, loving, supportive, God-fearing, super fun -kind of Mom! And while I loved being home and being a homemaker, I have realized, my sole purpose in life is not just taking care of my family. Somewhere along the way of being an awesome wife and an awesome Mom, I lost my sense of self. And that’s ok to a certain extent…but now that I’ve rediscovered ME, NICOLE, and not just the kid’s Mom or Aaron’s wife, I’ve realized I can do both, and that’s ok.
Everything I was so fearful about changing once I started working has really proven to be no-big deal and honestly my working has also improved everyone in my family. I always had breakfast ready in the morning, but my boys take turns making it and it’s been great teaching them how to cook. Before I used to clean up the entire house by myself, but now everyone pitches in and we spend Saturday morning with the music blaring cleaning together. Sure I’ve relied on the crockpot more than anyone could ever imagine, but my family has a meal every night! And the most important lesson that my children have learned…wait for it…if they leave something at home, I’m not bringing it to them, because I literally can’t, lol! Oh the responsibility of being in charge of yourself!
Not to mention, my husband who is forever empowering me anyway, has stepped up his compliments and probably finds me even sexier now that I put real effort into my appearance every day. I’m sure there was a point when he was thinking to himself, “If my wife wears these jogging pants one more time!” Hahaha!
No doubt there has been some adjusting to my new schedule. But when I share my work accomplishments with my family, I see them cheering me on, I can feel them being proud of me. My ability to work and still take care of home teaches my sons that I am a woman too, not just a Mother. It inspires my daughter to know that she can accomplish her own dreams while balancing other areas of life. And it reaffirms to my husband, that I am a strong woman who needs his support in my journey to be that great wife, awesome Mom and spirited woman that he loves so dearly.
So what was I thinking, going from SAHM to Working Mom? -That working doesn’t make me less of a Mom…ultimately when Mama’s happy, everyone’s happy!
Proverbs 31: 28-29 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”
(If you are a working Mom and need inspiration, I encourage you to read all of Proverbs 31:10-30. It’s God’s confirmation to us that we can be a woman clothed with strength and dignity, a wife of honorable character, a Mother who raises her blessed children, and a businesswoman.)